What we should not do with Determination

Determination is a powerful tool. We all know it is, we all know what we can and what we should do with it. But majority of us don't know what we should not do with it.

Here is an extract of a story which I read in one of the books.

Story:

There was a boy who expressed his determination in 9th grade. He was very close to his father, even though his father didn't like most of the things he did. But being the youngest in the family he was always pampered by everyone in the family.

His mom and dad were disciplines of some Swami. Every day they used to leave at 5 A.M and return at 10 A.M. The boy used to feel extremely irritated, and felt neglected. One day the boy went to his father and asked 'Do you love me or Swamijee more'? On hearing this his dad got really annoyed and slapped him hard. The boy felt very insulted and felt he did nothing wrong. So he decided to rebel in his own way.
He determined himself that he'll refuse to speak with his dad until he apologized. Everyday his dad would ask his mother "Won't he speak to me today as well"? But the boy was very determined, he wanted to pay him back and this was the only way he could.

1 week later his dad was going out for a business trip for 14 days. His dad was standing at the gate while leaving and asked the boy's mother "Won't he come and talk to me even now? I am leaving and I would like to speak to him. Ask him to come and talk to me". The boy was hiding behind the steps and watching and hearing everything. But his determination was so strong that he didn't come out.

His dad returned after 16 days, in fact 2 days later than what he had planned for. The boy had won the battle with his determination. He went to meet his dad, but cried so much that day because he became the biggest loser in life. He begged his dad to talk to him, but he could not, and would never - because on that day, his father died.

Moral: We all know what to do with determination, but we don't know where not to use our determination. Its important not to end relationships in determination of something else. Relations are things which build emotions and without relations emotions are dead, and life without emotions is like a robot.